I enjoyed conversations with parents who actually wanted
their children to learn. I can spin and
talk and keep an eye on a child all at the same time. The really little ones are so curious, and I
spun slowly, ready to stop on a dime if a little hand came in too close. But one little guy’s reach for the action
took me totally unaware and I barely stuck my hand into the flyer ahead of his
to stop it. Five hooks gouged my palm
and there was blood, to the great consternation of the mother. The little boy announced “Boo Boo.” That was no one’s fault but my own.
One time I was spinning and had a pre-teen boy for an
audience. He watched intently, but could
not be engaged in conversation. Then his
karate chop stopped the flyer cold. There
surely was pain, but no blood. He
grabbed his right hand and ran, but appeared shortly thereafter with his irate
mother who demanded I pay for a trip to the emergency room for an x-ray. I told her I’d see her x-ray and raise her a
custom made, recently karate chopped cherry flyer. They stormed off. That flyer is still cracked across the base.
My best defense against unsupervised and stupid children was
a good offense, and an order to leave.
One young lady disengaged herself from her group of very young teens,
walked into my booth, into the center of a clothing rack and commenced turning
in circles, twisting the clothing into a rope about herself. I said “Out. Out. Out.” Loudly and not politely. She ran, but returned, bawling, with
parent. “What did you do to my
daughter?” from the angry parent. The
girl sobbed, pointed at me, hiccupped. I
said to her “Tell your mother what you did.”
After a few minutes of these two sentences being exchanged over and
over, mom took sobbing child and left.
In recalling these two incidents, I’m still troubled for
these children. I can recall rude and
stupid things I did as a child. I knew
they were rude and stupid when I did them.
I knew I would not do that again, and only thought of parental intervention
the two times I had to be taken for stitches.
To the best of my knowledge, my parents never berated the parents of the
other children involved. The two
children I mentioned would thirty or more by now. I hope
they learned to take responsibility.
Those two are my “bad kid’ instances. And they were totally trumped by the good
kids. I was demonstrating weaving at the
St. James Court Art Show in Louisville and into my warp, weft, shuttle and
shedd talk to an audience when I heard a young voice yelling “She’s not going
over and under! She’s not going over and
under!” A young girl was running across
the street and stopped beside me.
“You’re not going over and under!”
A quantum technical leap. I gave her the bench and shooed her embarrassed
parents into the audience. She was a
natural and after two minutes was demonstrating changing shedds, throwing the
shuttle, beating on the open and closed shed, and making neat selvedges as I
stood up and talked. I bet all
weavers started on potholders, over and under. I hope she got a loom and
lessons.
Good kids and bad kids...they generally grow up into good adults and bad adults. Of course, good and bad is all in the eye of the beholder.
ReplyDeleteChildren with impulse-control issues shouldn't be allowed to wander unsupervised. Of course, that would require a parent who had the insight to admit the problem--"Not MY little darling!" It's good you have a handle on the situation.
ReplyDeleteAccepting responsibity for our own actions is one of my hobby horses. I think that we should do so a great deal more often instead of looking for some one to blame. It is hard to learn when you haven't ever made a mistake. Sorry, off my soap box now.
ReplyDeleteLove the potholder.
There are too many 'helicopter' parents who live in a state of denial. They hover around the child, never letting that child accept responsibility for anything. I will join you on the soap-box!
ReplyDeleteI'm on this soap-box, too. Accepting responsibility is a lost quality in today's world. It shows in every facet of our lives, from the daily commute, through the workday, and back at home. Sad. But thank you for the potholder. And the stories!
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