I hold a public office in a very small community. Most here
are third, fourth, fifth, even sixth generation. Born here and never left. They
are proud of being each other’s cousins. I count the inbreeding as responsible for
the meanness.
If I were an ordinary citizen, just the ordinary “come here”,
as opposed to “from here” of most others, I doubt I would notice. My friends
are people I like, and I know I like people from both camps. As the town clerk
I need to know a lot of people, and a lot of them aren't my friends. I
attribute that directly to their meanness.
A large cloud of meanness has hung over the township for
more than a year. Some days it’s more depressing than others, and today was one
of those. Even the road guys looked like Joe Btfsplk under his dark rain cloud
this morning, and I got a small dose myself.
I was thinking grumpy thoughts on the way home, but I did
slow down by the lake to see if a heron was there, even though I had no camera.
A little further up the road the police chief slowed and waved. The fellow who
stopped the other day to see if I needed help, and scared away my heron. I
smiled and waved back.
A couple of curves later Priscilla, another police officer
drove past. Another smile and a wave. Priscilla let Mrs. Claus off a couple of
years ago, when Mrs. Claus sped through town to get to the sleigh and wave to
the children on the Polar Express. I like Priscilla.
When I arrived home and my sister pointed out a deer had
sampled through the bulbs last night (grape hyacinths and crocus trimmed neatly
to the ground) we laughed together; it must have been a very young deer just
learning what tastes good. It will be in deer heaven when the hostas are grown.
A neatly trimmed grape hyacinth
Daffodil bed, unmolested
Two red anemones, a day from blooming
nothing like a smile and a wave to boost you out of grumpiness. at least the grape hyacinth will still bloom. unless of course the deer comes back. this is why I'm glad I do not have deer around.
ReplyDeleteI learned some years ago that if I was feeling down or nasty the best thing to do is to paste a big goofy smile on my face. The more often I did it the easier it became for it to become real and I felt better.
ReplyDeleteLove the flowers, even those sampled by deer! Ah, small-town life...
ReplyDeleteI hate meanness more than any other fault Joanne - it is soul destroying for the mean person as well as for those on the receiving end.
ReplyDeleteMy mother's favourite flowers were those anemones in such beautiful red and purple colours.
Hari Om
ReplyDeleteNature, some friendly nurture and some laughter. All the right remedies going on for a stinker of a day Joanne. I favour some blog-trawling too!!! YAM xx
Ah - small communities - different and yet always the same. Infuriating and lovable. Not sure if I could say that about a deer that ate my plants, though.
ReplyDeleteI often think grumpy thoughts Joanne and they do me no good at all. Love your Anenome. I can't grow them here and have to buy them at vast expense if I want to admire their breathtaking beauty. Hope the Deer don't get them.....
ReplyDeleteAnd I thought everyone in the Midwest was nice. Sounds like you're describing New Jersey.
ReplyDeleteMakes it even more important to be one of the kind people.
ReplyDeleteThere's a story behind the meanness...wouldn't you like to know the stories?
ReplyDeleteI know the stories. Prudence seals my lips.
DeleteThere is a 'large cloud of meaness' hanging over our world.
ReplyDeleteA smile and a wave can evaporate even the meanest cloud.
ReplyDeleteSmiling and waving to you. You so often bring me magic.
ReplyDeleteI loved this post....it's chatty simplicity
ReplyDeleteMeanness, it dwarfs the soul. I can understand being frustrated by/with it, but there's nothing mean about YOU Joanne... your soul simply isn't small enough for that. You are, in fact, infused with an immense generosity of heart.
ReplyDeleteoh today I dealt with a sibling meanness; so debilitating, but then I remembered a lady in line at the grocery store this past winter who volunteered to pay for my groceries because she thought my attire meant I couldn't afford the cost, little I could, but I almost cried then, and evennow at the ultimate generosity of someine who did not know me and of those who we meet so seldom and yet so generous and wonderful and giving they are thank goodness for the smiles and the waves.
ReplyDeleteGlad you decided not to let the meanness affect your whole day and you could smile at the story of the deer who came to have a snack in your garden :) Its sad the town is mean like that; working together with kindness and laughter might get better results down the road.
ReplyDeletebetty
Inbreeding? Don't they realise what they are doing?
ReplyDeleteI like your daffodil bed, all those bulbs massed together will look fantastic when they bloom.
I'll be planting out my own bulbs soon, probably this weekend and plan to mass them closer together for a better display. No pots this year, they're all going in the garden.
I've always thought the cure for the grumpies was to *do something for somebody quick*... even if it's just a smile. And if in doubt, always do the kind thing (sounds like Pollyanna-ish, but it works).
ReplyDeleteDear Joanne, to think of deers in your garden shows me how different our surroundings are - though I have to say the deer did its "mower-job" meticuously, Mayby you can cast him as Santa Claus' deer, forgetting generously the "rein" - (or did I get the story wrong?) - and he could be waved (or is it woven?) away - with a smile.
ReplyDeleteinteresting viewpoint about the community
ReplyDeletegood and bad people all around
I hope Bamby does not come back. I also live in a place where to be local you have to be 4th or 5th generation. It can be funny sometime. Two friends were talking about an immigrant, I asked them what country he was from. Oh - Kincardine they said (same province, same county but South of here). All the "foreigners" burst out laughing.
ReplyDeleteI was going to do a post about "born and bred" in a small town.
ReplyDeleteOh sorry for the hyacinths. They are one of my favorite spring flowers. Small towns remind me of the Andy Griffin show in some ways. In that TV series everyone did seem to know each other. I grew up in a fairly small town where I knew many but not all. Living in a small town felt good to me in my youth. -- barbara
ReplyDeleteOh sorry for the hyacinths. They are one of my favorite spring flowers. Small towns remind me of the Andy Griffin show in some ways. In that TV series everyone did seem to know each other. I grew up in a fairly small town where I knew many but not all. Living in a small town felt good to me in my youth. -- barbara
ReplyDeleteA smile and a wave really does work wonders! I'm glad you found the silver lining in your stormy day, Joanne. I admire you for taking on such a big responsibility, and hope that you send all the annoying people packing. By the way, your flowers are beautiful!
ReplyDeleteJulie
I feel like I was riding in the car with you. Thanks for the drive. And the view of the beautiful that comes up after winter's gloom.
ReplyDeleteWell, at least you got some smiles from those police officers. Lol.
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