The football team played every game this season, as is
expected, and the band played every half time, in support of the team. And the
parents and grandparent of the very few band members and football players
without personal transport have made every pickup and delivery of those select
few. The drill has been in effect since the last week of July, in fact, when
the well organized parents of both kinds of player began their annual ritual of
living vicariously.
Now it is the end of the third week of November and no, it
has not ended. For the first time in longer than I can be bothered to look up,
the football team is undefeated. An interview with the coach made the top half
of the first page of the local paper. He’s proud of his “guys,” citing names
and statistics so far back that only football parents emerged with eyes
unglazed.
The season ending so gloriously, what next? Why, sudden death
playoffs, of course. With the bands playing every half time, in support of the
teams. Our weather has turned so on the
kids that the band director is toying with letting the students march in warm
street clothes, the decision for uniforms to be made at the last minute, so
bring the uniform, too. Personally I believe that is her bribe to keep her band
up to full force as her award winning band has yet to appear on the field in
street clothes.
Tomorrow is the third sudden death for the football team;
they survived the team that took them out last year, and one other. Tomorrow’s
game is against a team they defeated already during the school year. The team
is becoming quite cocky, Emily reports, but that goes two ways. Their
confidence can carry them to another victory; their overconfidence can end the
season. We’ll see.
Bringing me to the present. If the team wins tomorrow, they
play again next Saturday. Thanksgiving weekend. Emily began softening me up by
reciting all the people she knows who have plans for that weekend. Oddly, they’re
all band members, not football players. She was, of course, working up to her Thanksgiving
weekend, when one of her parents will be lifting the children from the shelf
for the first time in three or four months, and taking his “family” across
state for a long weekend with his partner’s parents.
“I guess,” Emily said, “I’ll just have to tell the band
director I have a family emergency.”
“Was this a known possibility when you joined marching band?”
“Well, yes, but I would like to spend the weekend with my
family.”
I let her bask in that thought for several days before I
told her if there was another playoff game that weekend, she would be marching.
The bedroom on the other side of the hall exudes grumpy
since then. Given her twelve years of religious upbringing prior to occupying
that bedroom I shake my head and wonder when the moral compass will engage.
Go Team! Go Band. Beating the same team twice in one season is sometimes very difficult.
ReplyDelete...only football parents emerged with eyes unglazed. THAT made me laugh.
ReplyDeleteMaybe she better start praying for a team's defeat. I'd be the same if I had a child in band, they would be marching unless we truly had planned and orchestrated a trip out of town for the holiday.
ReplyDeletebetty
Making her honor her commitment is a good thing, though hard.
ReplyDeleteBit of a dilemma for Emily, I hope she comes to realise the band needs her support.
ReplyDeleteGrumpy permeates walls well doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteoh what a dilemma for her, although I don't wish it on them, perhaps the team won't play
ReplyDeleteI must be odd man out here...but...I think family trumps band.
ReplyDeleteHari OM
ReplyDeletethe words 'rock' and 'cliff' come to mind; whichever way this is turned , its hard. Tomorrow will bring what it will... YAM xx
Having grandchildren who are involved in many activities that sometimes impose on family get togethers and celebrations, I have to agree with Delores.
ReplyDeleteI'd let her make her own decision and suffer the consequences (if necessary).
ReplyDeleteHow old is Emily, Joanne? I agree with Kathy G. - or better: isn't it possible fot Emily to tell the truth to the band director?
ReplyDeleteEmily will be 16 next month. We have struggled mightily with the truth in this house. It still does not come naturally. Good you noticed the lie. I would second a request for an excused absence, but never a lie. Let's see if dumb luck prevails tonight.
DeleteHmm- tough one -- barbara
ReplyDeleteIt's hard when it's a choice between family and an extra-curricular. But, yes, a straight up approach would be better than claiming a family emergency.
ReplyDeleteThe truth will out....it always does!
ReplyDeleteJane x
No one holds a grudge better than a 16 year old girl. I imagine everyone is a bit weary of band by now but as you so rightly pointed out, she did make the commitment, one made all the harder when so many band mates are skipping and a rare family get together would seem an acceptable reason for begging off. Choosing a lie over the truth, though, for no good reason is a different problem but perhaps a habit that served her well before you took over their upbringing. It may take a while for her to realize that is no longer a working strategy. Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteI always insist on the truth which often does not bring the results we had hoped for, but when one lie is put forward it is usually followed by more.
ReplyDeleteAt her age life is often a puzzle and pulls in opposite directions can be upsetting. But sometimes making the decision of what to say and/or what to do is a milestone in one's life.
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